Monthly Archives: March 2012

Long-distance Relationships

Long-distance relationship.

I’m getting confused as to what to feel right now. Is it nice or not?

No, it’s not about me. In fact, in as much as I miss Elo, I am kinda enjoying the feeling of missing him. I realized how important he is in my life. I get to appreciate all his efforts. He sends me a text message every morning which became my alarm clock and I would reply when it’s time for me to leave the house. I miss him so much that I get excited each time my phone bleeps expecting a message from him. That, in itself, is a realization on how I had taken for granted the messages I received from him when we were always together. Don’t get me wrong. It’s difficult and it hurts like hell not to hear his voice, see his face and hug him whenever I feel like it. But what can I do? However, being away from each other, we always look forward to the day we’d meet again.

Yeah, I am aware that all things are possible. I am still open to the fact that there is a big possibility for feelings to change and people to drift apart. So far, we are holding true to our promise, our commitment to persevere so we can soon be together.

But that is not what prompted me to write about long-distance relationships. I am writing about the downside of being in one. I have learned of stories from couples who were once in LDR. There are those who are still able to hold on and another great story which will lead to the altar on June (Yes, I’m talking about you, Grace). However, majority of them didn’t get their so-called happy ending.

I have a friend who didn’t get hers. Friend had the boyfriend. She got pregnant and they lived in together. She worked abroad and left the son and boyfriend. Soon enough, boyfriend was not able to remain faithful. Since they were not married, boyfriend easily took off without a word. Unbelievable, I thought. It only happens in television dramas. How in the world would you sacrifice your child’s right to have a complete family in lieu of personal gratification?  I would perfectly understand if you have been living together under one roof, tried to mend things and, eventually, realized that it cannot be done. But if you are apart and just decide because the other is not present to give you what you want/need is a different issue. It clearly shows weakness and selfishness. That person is weak for not being able to fight off temptations or easily give up and selfish for not considering the other’s feelings.

I realized, today, my friend’s story above is not so impossible. It made me cry that having children doesn’t guarantee unmarried couples of not breaking up especially if one of them has other priorities in life (and Family is not on top of the list). It is just so sad that some people can easily throw away the years of highs and lows spent together. It breaks my heart that they can easily give up on the person they love for something temporary.

Anyway, things are not yet final. On bad days like this, I would remind myself that “Everything will be alright in the end. If it’s not alright, then, it’s not the end.” I am praying for the best.

 
(Kaya Brad, lablab! Fighting!)

P.S.

LDR’s key to success = CONSTANT COMMUNICATION

In this era of technology, everything is possible. No excuses.

Elo (my love) is able to text me every single day since the day I left. He doesn’t have his own computer but he leaves me messages if he can’t meet me online.

How about you? What’s your excuse? Oh, sorry. Not accepted.

But because I love you, I’ll let you off the hook.

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Jogja Weekend

The trip in Jogja was superb. Mainly because it was my first vacation trip since I got here in Indonesia. Going around Jogja was definitely a breath of fresh air after being stuck in Jakarta. I got to relax and forget about the bustling life in Jakarta. Almost everything is better there. Lighter traffic, fresher air, cheaper prices, more culture, and friendlier people.

The people even try their best to speak in English. Here in Jakarta, if you speak in English, never expect a reply or a help at that. I remember asking for a shirt size in the mall, I thought the sales lady was just getting it. I waited then wondered what’s taking her so long. Turns out, she never went to get the size but went to the other side of the store away from me. I thought that living in the metro would make people learn English more because of work.

Bapak Nunung, our driver, was great. We, basically, slept everytime we’re in the car. He drove us into the best places to eat and brought us to our destinations without questions. He always greets us with a smile even if he had to wait long in the parking lot. He even texted us to ask if we have safely arrived in Jakarta and wished to see us all again soon.

I’m definitely bringing Elo and my family there.

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Temple Run: Rato Buku

We were able to go to Candi Rato Buku because of the package we got when we bought the Prambanan tickets. It is located on top of a hill, 3 km. south of Candi Pramnbanan. the drive going there was rocky but nice. It was a rough road surrounded by rice fields. It was not as stunning as Prambanan and Borobudur. Maybe that’s the reason why they include it in the package. Nonetheless, the location was nice. Not for our body though. It was the third and last temple we went to and we really felt beat up from all the walking and climbing.

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Temple Run: Prambanan

Because last Saturday night was very unfortunate that my camera’s battery died on me, we went back to Prambanan to get loads of pictures of the temple. It was picture perfect. We came there after lunch which was a very, very bad time. It was prickly hot on the skin. There were moments when the sun didn’t cooperate with our mere point-and-shoot cameras and made the images dark.

Prambanan Temple

The locals, made our visit more fun. Lots of high school students were there. We thought they came just to visit the temple. We also saw a bunch of students chatting with a French guy (who was kinda cute :p). Ate Lanie and I were making up stories about the foreigners being pedophiles *LOL* and laughing as to why the students were so awed with them. They were laughing so loud at whatever the French guy said and shrieked when they were given a chance to have their photo taken with him. We, eventually, understood what these children were doing when we, ourselves, were approached by one group. It was then Ate Lanie’s turn to be a pedophile *LOL*. Apparently, they were interviewing foreigners to practice conversing in English as a school requirement. But the funniest part was when we were mistaken as actresses from soap operas by a group of girls and asked if they could take pictures with us. I think they believe that people who wear sunglasses are the famous ones. It made us laugh how it can turn your world upside down -from being an ordinary foreigner who basically looks like them to someone who stars in sinetron (soap opera).

Jogja locals in Prambanan with "Sinetron Star". LOL

"Sinetron Star" in Prambanan. LOL

The short lady had her turn to become the pedophile. LOL.

Being a Hindu culture masterpiece, the visit to Prambanan was definitely worth it. The day was so hot that it gave us bad sunburns. Our face, arms and neck are red, hot and itchy but it was all worth it. I will come back soon…maybe for some prenup pictures. LOL.

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Temple Run

No. It’s not about the game.

Today was Temple Day. We visited temples on our second day. I had my first experience to really watch the sunrise. It was nicer that I’ve seen it on top of the enormous Borobudur Temple. I call it the hidden temple as you cannot see it on the way there. I found on the internet that it is about a 15-minute walk from the parking area to the gate of the temple stairs.Image

I apologize for my lack of skills in photography. It was tiring climbing those [more or less] 100 steps. Yeah, I’m nerd that way. But it sure was a nice view from the top. 🙂 I have about more than 100 images on my camera with all the angles possible to my noob photography skills.

We have been raving about touching the stone/buddha inside the stupa and have our wish grated but I never got to try it as I was so busy taking pictures. This is my favorite picture.

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Prambanan is another temple in Jogja. It is a Hindu temple. I was only able to take a very bad picture from afar. Tomorrow will be the day for us to visit and climb it which means more pictures to come. 🙂

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Tonight was well spent with us watching the Javanese cultural dance, Ramayana Ballet. Expensive but definitely worth it.Image

More pictures in my facebook account https://www.facebook.com/cheeneestar. This one is my fave from the show…a picture with the two main characters. Yeah! I learned after the show that they won the Gold among other countries in the cultural dance competition by  the Pacific Asia Travel Association.

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Meeting Yogyakarta

I was really excited that I slept at 3am. We left the house at 5am for our 8am flight!. Garuda Indonesia was far better than Philippine Airlines in terms of comfort (not being a traitor, but it’s the truth). It is my first time to board a plane other than PAL or CebuPac, so cut me some slack for getting giddy about having my own  cabin screen. It was fun to be able to listen to music, play games or watch videos and movies on Economy class. I was all smiles when there are Korean movies available.   My watching was cut short as the flight was not even an hour long. We reached Yogyakarta’s Adisutjipto Airport. Our rented car was waiting and was ready to take us to our first destination, Surakarta or Solo. It was a 2-hour drive from the airport and we mostly slept through the ride. We had our lunch at Omah Sinten which serves tasty traditional Javanese and Dutch dishes. My favorite was the free appetizer which is a bowl of Cassava and Ube chips. Ube chips were definitely new but a real superb. We were very happy with all the delicious dishes we ordered. It was a great plus that the food were all very cheap (compared to Jakarta’s prices).

Lunch at Omah Sinten


We also visited the palace. We had to go through a walled street leading to it but it was unfortunate that it was closed (or we’re really not allowed. I didn’t understand the lady by the door). So in the end, we practically did nothing in Solo other than lunch then went on our way back to our hotel.

Tower and Portal of Kraton Surakarta.

Malioboro was renowned as the Batik shopping haven. Passing through it reminds me of Baguio’s Session Road (only Malioboro is a flatland street compared to Session Road’s uphills and downhills). It was lined with Batik stores and food stalls. We went to our hotel room to unpack then went on our way to Taman Sari. It was a former water castle made for the sultan’s wives for reflection. It was so big that you could get lost inside it’s labyrinth-like passageways. It was good to have the guide who really gave us good tour (it was in Bahasa so it was basically Kuya Gustaf who understood everything). He was like a frustrated photographer as he choreographed most of our shots inside. What caught my attention was the head of one of the statues that fell from the top of the building to the ground.

This rock is a statue that fell from the water castle's building.

The government is trying its best to protect and preserve this historic site but it was unfortunate that they are having a hard time doing so as the place was already packed with people who built their houses within the walls of the ruins. Just imagine Intramuros having settlers inside its walls. Not a nice place eh?

We also went to the 2 mysterious trees. People are challenged to walk between the trees in a straight line. The wish of anyone who can get passed the trees walking in a straight line will be granted. So far, only 1 person was able to do it. We also tried, and I can say, it was really hard. We even practiced walking on a different direction just to check if we can walk in a straight line with our eyes blindfolded.  Turns out, we can, but never between the two trees.

With eyes blindfolded, get past the two trees in a straight line and have your wish granted.

We ended our trip for the day with a dinner at another Javanese restaurant. It was a bit more expensive than what we had for lunch. Apparently, the sultan himself goes to that restaurant to eat.

So that caps off my March 23…tomorrow, or rather later, is Temple day.

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Countdown to Holiday

Spring break has started in most schools here. Ours doesn’t have. We are feeling a bit sad that others are already going on a holiday while we are stuck in school. Good thing because today is the last day of school for us, as well. Tomorrow is Nyepi. Yey!

Marine Temple of Tanah Lot in Bali

Nyepi is a Balinese “Day of Silence” that is commemorated every Isakawarsa (Saka new year) according to Bali’s calendar. It is a day of silence, fasting, and meditation. It is observed from 6 a.m. until 6 a.m. the next morning, Nyepi is a day reserved for self-reflection and as such, anything that might interfere with that purpose is restricted. The main restrictions are: no lighting fires (and lights must be kept low); no working; no entertainment or pleasure; no travelling; and for some, no talking or eating at all. The effect of these prohibitions is that Bali’s usually bustling streets and roads are empty, there is little or no noise from TVs and radios, and few signs of activity are seen even inside homes. The only people to be seen outdoors are the Pecalang or traditional security men who patrol the streets to ensure the prohibitions are being followed. (*Source: Wikipedia)

According to a co-teacher who previously worked in Bali, she said that they even have to cover their windows with black cloth because the Pecalang were really very strict. So, for those who plan to go to Bali, unless you plan to go on a retreat, you need to know that Nyepi is not the time to go there. You would be wasting your time and money as you would only stay in your hotel room for the entire day.

Basically everyone going on a holiday has already crossed out Bali on their list of destinations. Most of our students are going to other countries. As for me, I am also going on a trip. Yeah! This is going to be my first every holiday trip since I got here in Jakarta. We will leave early tomorrow morning for YOGYAKARTA! Yey! I’ll be seeing the renowned center of Javanese culture. Of course, I did some research on what I would be seeing there. This is the Borobudur Temple (which is very beautiful on these pictures). I know I won’t be able to capture it like this so I give credits to their rightful owners.

Borobudur Temple

Sunset in Borobudur

Borobudur Temple during Waisak Night.

I wouldn’t be able to see the view on the last picture as this was taken during the Waisak Night or a day that honors the birth, life and teachings of Buddha Shakyamuni which occurs on the full moon day of the fourth lunar month (Vesakha). It will be on May for this year.

Few more minutes before school ends for this day and I’ll be packing as soon as I get home. Yes, I’m that excited.

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Rookie

Hi. Not entirely new to blogging as I have tried other sites before but this one is made by my mature self (at least that’s what I believe so). This is going to be a new one that I hope to update on a regular basis. I am still learning the ropes of wordpress and I hope I’ll get the hang of it soon.

This is me after work.

This is me after working with 1.5-3 year old kids.

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