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Twenty-five and Blessed

I was kind of dreading September 7. I was a bit apprehensive of being 25. I have no savings, no investment, no particular plan for the future, not much to be proud of. I guess it is quarter-life crisis catching up on me. I had the feeling of wanting to make time freeze for a moment just so I can accomplish something before I become 25. But of course, I still have to face the inevitable.

It was a regular school day that Friday. I woke up and did my stuff to prepare for school. I’m having the bigger group for that day. My favorite kids are there and so, there would be less stress for the day. I don’t usually wear make up in school. Not even a touch of powder. But that day, I decided to prep up a bit and even tied up my hair.

The surprises came a day before. My friend, Ate Lanie, arrived the night before with a sunflower for me. We both turned in late but I got to go to the bathroom at around 2 or 3 in the morning and found her gift hanging on the bathroom door.

I got the usual birthday greetings from my housemates, workmates, and some kids. My 2-year olds were, of course, taught by my assistant teachers to greet me as soon as they arrived in the classroom. You can just imagine how adorable they were wishing me “Happy birthday, Teacher Vera.” which sounded more like “Happy Betday, Peache Weya.”

At around 9 a.m., my boss’ driver knocked on my classroom door and told me that I have a phone call. When I got to the front desk, I got the surprise I wanted.

The Bouquet from Hun

The Bouquet from Hun

Last year, I got a bouquet from hun which I never really expected since he never gave me flowers on occasions. So this year, I kind of expected it already. But when Ate Lanie gave me the sunflower the night before, she told me that hun didn’t text her anything. That got me thinking that I won’t be getting one from him this year. I asked him about it and said that he’d just make up for it on Valentine’s. Of course, I was a little sad. So much for my impatience, hence the reaction.

I went back to my classroom to continue teaching but the kids wanted to see the flowers and grabbed it from all sides. Good thing it survived. Five minutes after, my boss came in singing happy birthday making the kids sing along. Another 10 minutes later, someone came in singing with a chocolate cake and red velvets from the kids’ mommies.

Candy Class: A Surprise From Their Mommies

Candy Class: A Surprise From Their Mommies

Another surprise from my workmates:

The "Maligayang Bali" Cake

The “Maligayang Bali” Cake

I have a birthday cake toy in the classroom and it was just so sweet when the kids try to sing me the Happy Birthday song and wanting me to blow the candles until the following week. They’re just adorable!

My family celebrated my birthday back home. I joked that they even prepared more food at home than what I served for my workmates and housemates.

These people made me realize that happiness isn’t about anything material. My blessings and achievements came in a different package. I may not have savings or investment yet but I know I am blessed with so much people who care for me, appreciate me, love me, and are inspired by me. I have my family and boyfriend to keep me going everyday. I have my friends who make life easier to go through. I have people who trust me with their children. I have these little children who make me remember my purpose in life.

Now, I know I shouldn’t be dreading aging. I have a full life ahead of me. I am in my mid-twenties and I should be making the most of my youth. Yeah, being 25 isn’t so bad after all. My life is just beginning and it’s time to fulfill my dreams. 🙂

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The Love Cycle

Browsing through peoples’ FB profiles and tumbled upon a love-inspired status which turned into an intellectual discussion on L-O-V-E.

*Credits to the owners of such remarkable brains. O_o

** A, thanks to you and your friends. Tell them I said hi. 😀

Elmo: Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.

Dominic: Furthermore, love necessitates that the happiness of the other person be achieved only by the total self-giving of that other person and of yours, as well.

Raizyl: Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is more important than your own happiness.

Dominic: True. But that’s not the end of it. You see, man is meant to be happy as well. That’s why, unrequited love is the worst.

Raizyl: Yeah but often times some “unreciprocated”, if there’s such a word, love is true love, something that never ask for anything in return…unconditional love ika nga.

Dominic: That is only one side of reality. Just remember this: Man is made to love and be loved. That’s the complete picture. So, unrequited love is a waste of time. Even if the essence of love — total self-giving — is there, the whole thing is incomplete if there is no receiver who acknowledges the love and gives it back. Syempre, on the part of the giver, you are not expecting anything in return, so to speak. But, the nature of man is such: he is to love and be loved.

Raizyl: But often times when we love and get loved, it sometimes turn from unconditional to being conditional.

Dominic: You’re right. But, to succumb to that tendency is to give up on man’s capacity to love.

Raizyl: Sadly, imperfection makes us vulnerable to that tendency.

Dominic: Quite right. But we are also capable of overcoming it.

Raizyl: It’s a cycle, I guess. You realize it when it’s gone then you begin again.

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Love Is A Decision

Love is such a vague idea. You define it according to what you believe in.

I believe that it equals commitment, a decision. It is not entirely based on feelings.

You can fall in love with anyone who treats you well, then, fall out of love when it gets boring and tiring.

But real love conquers all. It rejoices in something beautiful but accepts all shortcomings.

Because love, if solely based on feelings, tends to dim out over time.

But love, if based on commitment, gets through all storms.

You accept. You fall not just in love but into a commitment.

You decide to never stop loving. You hold on to it no matter what.

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2131 Days

I just posted my most recent entry “Being Young” when I saw the date today. I started writing the previous entry yesterday, April 5th, but I went out while waiting for the pictures to be uploaded. I didn’t realize that it was already past midnight. I saw the time as 1:02 a.m. Philippine time. So, it is still a little past midnight here. Yes, I never changed the date and time settings on my computer, mobile phones and even my watches. I just have to deduct the time difference so I can track the time here. So far, I have gotten used to it. But that isn’t what this new entry is about. Hehehe.

Today is April 6, 2012, the 70th month since Elo and I got together. I haven’t texted him yet. On days like this, I hate being away. This long-distance relationship is killing me. But it makes me want to thank it also.

I chose to work abroad in search of a better paying school. This decision I made a year ago is such a giant leap of faith. It was like putting everything at risk. But so far, I am at ease. Even with the distance, I am feeling a great sense of security. He has not made me doubt about our relationship. I feel like he even improved into a much better person. He shows more commitment than he did before. I can feel his love with every message he sends. He would inform me his daily schedule, where he goes and who he’s with. It’s not that I wouldn’t allow him, but I feel grateful that he keeps me informed. He’s more than a thousand miles away, but he comforts me like he’s just next door. He makes my stay here bearable saying each day without me is a day nearer to the time we’d meet again.

I thank you, hun, for keeping up. Thank you for being strong for us. It’s our 70th month. That’s exactly 2 131 days of being in love. We’re just two months away to our much-awaited 6th! We’ll be together by then. I just can hardly wait.

Smile, hun, because it’s a happy day. Check below. Here’s your present! YEY! I love you!

Flight details!!!

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Long-distance Relationships

Long-distance relationship.

I’m getting confused as to what to feel right now. Is it nice or not?

No, it’s not about me. In fact, in as much as I miss Elo, I am kinda enjoying the feeling of missing him. I realized how important he is in my life. I get to appreciate all his efforts. He sends me a text message every morning which became my alarm clock and I would reply when it’s time for me to leave the house. I miss him so much that I get excited each time my phone bleeps expecting a message from him. That, in itself, is a realization on how I had taken for granted the messages I received from him when we were always together. Don’t get me wrong. It’s difficult and it hurts like hell not to hear his voice, see his face and hug him whenever I feel like it. But what can I do? However, being away from each other, we always look forward to the day we’d meet again.

Yeah, I am aware that all things are possible. I am still open to the fact that there is a big possibility for feelings to change and people to drift apart. So far, we are holding true to our promise, our commitment to persevere so we can soon be together.

But that is not what prompted me to write about long-distance relationships. I am writing about the downside of being in one. I have learned of stories from couples who were once in LDR. There are those who are still able to hold on and another great story which will lead to the altar on June (Yes, I’m talking about you, Grace). However, majority of them didn’t get their so-called happy ending.

I have a friend who didn’t get hers. Friend had the boyfriend. She got pregnant and they lived in together. She worked abroad and left the son and boyfriend. Soon enough, boyfriend was not able to remain faithful. Since they were not married, boyfriend easily took off without a word. Unbelievable, I thought. It only happens in television dramas. How in the world would you sacrifice your child’s right to have a complete family in lieu of personal gratification?  I would perfectly understand if you have been living together under one roof, tried to mend things and, eventually, realized that it cannot be done. But if you are apart and just decide because the other is not present to give you what you want/need is a different issue. It clearly shows weakness and selfishness. That person is weak for not being able to fight off temptations or easily give up and selfish for not considering the other’s feelings.

I realized, today, my friend’s story above is not so impossible. It made me cry that having children doesn’t guarantee unmarried couples of not breaking up especially if one of them has other priorities in life (and Family is not on top of the list). It is just so sad that some people can easily throw away the years of highs and lows spent together. It breaks my heart that they can easily give up on the person they love for something temporary.

Anyway, things are not yet final. On bad days like this, I would remind myself that “Everything will be alright in the end. If it’s not alright, then, it’s not the end.” I am praying for the best.

(Kaya Brad, lablab! Fighting!)



In this era of technology, everything is possible. No excuses.

Elo (my love) is able to text me every single day since the day I left. He doesn’t have his own computer but he leaves me messages if he can’t meet me online.

How about you? What’s your excuse? Oh, sorry. Not accepted.

But because I love you, I’ll let you off the hook.

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